Do we expect too much from our husbands? I think that is a question that many women contemplate at some point in their marriages. Did you lose your father at a young age? Did you have a father that wasn't even around? Well, a father plays a huge role in a young girl's life. Maybe you were fortunate enough to have an uncle or a cousin, or even a big brother who helped to fill in that missing role. If not, than like many other women....you are not alone. So many young girls don't experience the things that a father can contribute to their life. I am no exception to this. I know from personal experience that not having a father in your life can cause you to seek that from others, especially your husband. Most days, not having a father in my life is like any other day. But some days, it just hits me like a ton of bricks......today happens to be one of those days.
Is it really fair to expect our husbands to fill this missing role? I'm not really sure it is. Our husbands are called to be our providers and to be our best friends, but I don't think they should be responsible for being a father figure also. This is really tough for most women that haven't experienced a father. Unfortunately, there really isn't a simple answer. So what do you do when you don't have anyone filling this role?? Well, first and foremost.....you should seek God, our Heavenly Father. In Deuteronomy 33:12 it says, "Let the beloved of the Lord rest secure in him, for he shields him all day long, and the one the Lord loves rests between his shoulders." He loves each of us so much and God truly is the only one that can fill any missing roles in our lives. Sometimes, filling a human role with God will seem difficult....but I know from personal experience....it is truly possible. Some days you will probably still struggle...but that is because of what the world tells us. God can and will provide the love and support and encouragement you may need...if only you seek Him first and foremost.
Here is a song that has helped me get through many days when I felt this hole the most, which in turn led me to believe untruths about myself and my life. It is called My Beloved by Kari Jobe. I hope you enjoy it!